Movies...we all at many crucial moments look up to the classical, romantic, critical and/or commercially acclaimed movies with high expectations. Expectations which know no bounds: you expect a quick fix solution through characters portrayed in the movies. Love has been one of such expectation where almost each of us has fantasized that romantic relationship as portrayed on the silver screen.
Here I name a few:
1. The girl is with the love of her life, a problems comes in -maybe another girl/boy/family member/personal/professional issue, the list goes on...and then everything becomes clear!
2. The girl/guy loved the wrong person (you know because they got the 'wrong' cheating or saying something bad or making them feel bad), on that very moment the right person sneaks in for the rescue! (really that's too much filmy that is why it is a film)
3. Both the partners feel that they no more love each other and they both have find love in their own life with a perfect timing! (Now this one is a bit acceptable because TIME...you know how it works wonder with life)
Any guesses? These examples might have made you nostalgic in remembrance of your all time favourite rom-com. But...WAIT!!!
Here I will like to share a few lessons which I learnt never to learn through movies in my routine flow of life.
A. PEOPLE ARE GRAY
Yup! You never going to find someone perfect/absolute right or utterly wrong.
That's how we all are...We as human beings are combination of the good we do, the bad we brought (on some unfortunate souls), the chances we cherish or regret taking, the opportunities well utilised or missed...a life well lived.
B. PEOPLE BEHAVE DIFFERENTLY IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS...So if a poor guy behaved miserably in one situation does not mean you forget all the good he did for you throughout!
This might remind you of many scenes from highly acclaimed Hollywood-Bollywood movies. Yes a girl visits parents with boyfriend, there meets her high school crush and some stupid situation arises and just like that the man is replaced! Really...just because the poor fella went miserable in an alien planet, you should desert him? Forgetting all the good times...I think its a bit unfair. May be a few of you opine differently but my whole point in writing this is, we should look for the bigger picture in any relationship. If in totality it feels wrong, drop it then and there, Why to screw someone's holiday plans.
C. YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN!
As a matter of fact, yes you are! You know bumping into a perfect man right when you are all broken, poor little thing...sorry it never works this way. Life is cruel and you have to be a bitch to deal with it.
D. TRY IGNORING FEW MISTAKES OF LOVED ONES...
Yes. All stuffs he did this and that, how could he moments...ignorance is a bliss! A few mistakes can be avoided and life can go on..but it's only you who can decide what is your criteria to filter mistakes...like few are unavoidable for one person but small issue in relation for other. So its absolutely you who should be making the decision not some stupid movie character!
E. You are the HERO OF THE SCRIPT of your life!
Sadly people gonna come and go! Only you going to be there to witness the whole of it. So stop pestering yourself for not bumping into that sweet loving handsome charming hero of your life.
F. Movie characters are situational!
That's why they make movies when something filmy is about to happen in the particular character's life. Remember Bridget Jones' Diary? It was her 30 something birthday where she was being offered with love from all direction in an eventual flow of the year....what about the 30 years journey she took ? Any guesses...I mean she could be anyone anything. So in your life your situations and your actions are going to decide your fate...don't deal with stupid filmy ideas as your ideals.
To sum up, always look for the bigger picture. Look beyond circumstances and ask yourself what's best for you. And do not make a decision because that's how it was shown in the movie/TV!
Love <3
Here I name a few:
1. The girl is with the love of her life, a problems comes in -maybe another girl/boy/family member/personal/professional issue, the list goes on...and then everything becomes clear!
2. The girl/guy loved the wrong person (you know because they got the 'wrong' cheating or saying something bad or making them feel bad), on that very moment the right person sneaks in for the rescue! (really that's too much filmy that is why it is a film)
3. Both the partners feel that they no more love each other and they both have find love in their own life with a perfect timing! (Now this one is a bit acceptable because TIME...you know how it works wonder with life)
Any guesses? These examples might have made you nostalgic in remembrance of your all time favourite rom-com. But...WAIT!!!
Here I will like to share a few lessons which I learnt never to learn through movies in my routine flow of life.
A. PEOPLE ARE GRAY
Yup! You never going to find someone perfect/absolute right or utterly wrong.
That's how we all are...We as human beings are combination of the good we do, the bad we brought (on some unfortunate souls), the chances we cherish or regret taking, the opportunities well utilised or missed...a life well lived.
B. PEOPLE BEHAVE DIFFERENTLY IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS...So if a poor guy behaved miserably in one situation does not mean you forget all the good he did for you throughout!
This might remind you of many scenes from highly acclaimed Hollywood-Bollywood movies. Yes a girl visits parents with boyfriend, there meets her high school crush and some stupid situation arises and just like that the man is replaced! Really...just because the poor fella went miserable in an alien planet, you should desert him? Forgetting all the good times...I think its a bit unfair. May be a few of you opine differently but my whole point in writing this is, we should look for the bigger picture in any relationship. If in totality it feels wrong, drop it then and there, Why to screw someone's holiday plans.
C. YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN!
As a matter of fact, yes you are! You know bumping into a perfect man right when you are all broken, poor little thing...sorry it never works this way. Life is cruel and you have to be a bitch to deal with it.
D. TRY IGNORING FEW MISTAKES OF LOVED ONES...
Yes. All stuffs he did this and that, how could he moments...ignorance is a bliss! A few mistakes can be avoided and life can go on..but it's only you who can decide what is your criteria to filter mistakes...like few are unavoidable for one person but small issue in relation for other. So its absolutely you who should be making the decision not some stupid movie character!
E. You are the HERO OF THE SCRIPT of your life!
Sadly people gonna come and go! Only you going to be there to witness the whole of it. So stop pestering yourself for not bumping into that sweet loving handsome charming hero of your life.
F. Movie characters are situational!
That's why they make movies when something filmy is about to happen in the particular character's life. Remember Bridget Jones' Diary? It was her 30 something birthday where she was being offered with love from all direction in an eventual flow of the year....what about the 30 years journey she took ? Any guesses...I mean she could be anyone anything. So in your life your situations and your actions are going to decide your fate...don't deal with stupid filmy ideas as your ideals.
To sum up, always look for the bigger picture. Look beyond circumstances and ask yourself what's best for you. And do not make a decision because that's how it was shown in the movie/TV!
Love <3
True :)
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